For those of you that still think I care about blogging–I do.
For those of you that have no clue what is going on in my life in the past few months because I have not been blogging- I am sorry.
Ruckus: To make a noisy commotion, to cause a great disturbance. The recent ruckus has been a wrestling and contending with the Holy One. I have been in a real intense season of not feeling much commotion and hearing HIS disturbing voice.
My life is not my own and the more I own up to that the more I am used by God. Dying to be used by Him is the painful and difficult process that us Christians face each day. As Paul said, “I DIE DAILY.” I have been learning how to lean on Him each day and not focus on the areas in my life where I feel like I am failing but rather the places where He is working righteousness and holiness in me and building Godly character that will last for all of eternity.
When I am in seasons like this it is hard for me to write a lot because I want my writing to be open. Not so open that you know my deepest secrets but open enough where what is currently going on in my life comes out in my writing.
NO, I don’t have a girlfriend. I have thought about it a lot in the past five or six months. Two of my really good friends(McCrew) from back home are getting married. CONGRATS TO ANDY AND BRI! They were married on Aug. 24, 07. And my best friend AARON HUPP IS MARRYING THIS GIRL NAMED ADRIELLE. I am a groomsmen in his wedding. I will be in Colorado again November 2 for his wedding.
The reason I mention considering having a girlfriend is because besides being at a place like IHOP that is full of a plethora of single people and mostly female single people; one feels like they are missing out on something if they are not in a “relationship.” I am not saying everyone I know feels like they are missing out because they are single I am saying that I am sure people have felt this way before and have wondered why they feel this way. I have been trying to give myself some perspective on where I am at in my life. Maybe this is you, maybe not.
1. I am young and have plenty of time to prepare myself for something like marriage:
I am 21 years old, I will be 22 in 6 weeks. Lamentations 3:27 says, “It is good for a man to bear the yoke while he is young.” This verse tells me that while I have the most strength in my life and while I have all of this vigor and vitality I shouldn’t squander it on myself but rather use it to grow in my relationship with God. The reason why this is important is because in pursuing a deep intimate relationship with Jesus I am preparing myself for marriage. Because I will take what I have cultivated with God and bring that with me into a future relationship. So, I am young and I have a lot of time NOT to waste, so I should spend it on God.
2. While I am single I should learn how to be friends with women around me
I have been thinking about how when I was in junior high and high school how I was anti-friends-with-girls because if I wasn’t going to date them then what is the point of being there friend. This is lame and not the way Christians should do things. First off, whoever you end up dating you should be friends with them before you become a “couple.” Dating someone is taking the step beyond being friends with a person and moving towards falling in love before marrying them. As men, we should learn how to honor and respect the women in our midst. You don’t have to be friends with every girl that is in your sphere of influence but you should find someone that you can have a healthy friendship with.
In conclusion, life as a single man is good and I am grateful and thankful for the people in my life that encourage me to not overthink relationships and simply give myself to the Lord in these early years.
Give me your thoughts about this one.